It’s hard to teach sharing and being nice to people. I sometimes wonder if as humans, we are naturally selfish, egotistical beings and that it is against our very natures to think beyond ourselves. I struggle to teach the boys to get along, to share their toys with each other, or, at the very least, stop f-ing antagonizing each other. Jesus. Is it so hard to just not make your brother scream in aggravation because you said something or took away the toy or hit him? Leave him alone!
Channelling.
So imagine my surprise when ever was upset that Sean had an eyeball balloon and he didn’t. While Evan was at school, we were at the grocery store, where they were giving away their Halloween balloons. When a store clerk asked Sean if he wanted one, he asked for the eye-ball balloon with a please. All day, Sean was talking to his Eye-Ball Friend. Naturally, Evan had to destroy this special bond.
After the third time of Evan taking the balloon and the second time of him putting the ribbon in his mouth to irritate Sean, I sent Evan to time out. After the five minutes, we had a nice little discussion over when something belongs to someone else, we leave it alone. We play with other people’s things when we ask and they say yes.
Evan: But I like the eye-ball balloon!
Me: I know. But it’s Sean’s.
Evan: But Mommmmmmyyyyyyy!
Me: It’s still Sean’s. Play with the other balloon.
Sean: Here, brother! You want to play with it?! You can!
And then I realize my boy is the sweetest, kindest, most adorable boy on the planet. And maybe I had a hand in it.


November 2, 2010 at 4:28 pm
Aww.. that’s soo cute! Of course you’ve had a hand in it – the ‘please’ at the store, and the sharing with his brother, is all things he’s learned from you..
You’re a great mom, you’re boys are lucky to have you!
November 3, 2010 at 8:04 am
Hooray!!! Maybe all of our hard work DOES pay off, LOL!
November 3, 2010 at 11:40 am
What an adorable moment. A teaching moment. Teaching us moms out there that every thing we do, everything our children witness – there IS a payoff in the end! Good job, Mom!
November 3, 2010 at 1:36 pm
tuh~ Thanks. It’s adorable to hear toddlers say please; it’s the reason we taught them.
Gibby~ For brief moments in time.
Jane~ We are the model. No matter how frightening that sounds.