While camping, we took the boys on a short kid-friendly hike. If you don’t know, Cub Scouts is very parent hands-on. So all parents were there, and some of the fathers decided to keep going and find other trails. Since we were desert camping (God, I hate desert camping so much), it was easy to track all the kids, those who were hiking with their adventurous dads and those who were climbing on their own.
I watched my ungraceful, uncoordinated middle child, scale a rock, one that I would’ve assumed he was too nervous to try.
Tornado E: (from behind me, yards away) Mama! Mama! Tornado A’s scaring me.
As the years go by, Tornado E has become extremely cautious and averse to risk of any kind. I blame it on the divorce. I’m sure that Tornado A was testing Tornado E’s limits, not his own.
Another mom: (from just behind me) Um, that’s your son, right?
I turned to see Tornado A balancing precariously on a rock outcrop. Damn.
Me: (Sigh) Yup. He belongs to me.
I walk over to where Tornado E was pleading for his brother to sit down. I put my hand on his shoulder, making him turn and look at me. I smiled.
Me: Thank you, Tornado E. But I’ll take over from here. It’s my job to protect and watch over you. Go explore.
Tornado E: (Looked over at his brother and then back at me) Ok. Mama.
He ran off.
Me: Ok, little man. Time to get down. You’re making everyone nervous.
He rocked and caught his balance. On my side, it would be a bit of a fall. On the other side, the side he rocked to, it would be a very bad fall.
Tornado A: No, Mama. I’m an explorer. I take risks.
Uh-huh. I pulled out my phone.
Me: Ok, Explorer. Why don’t I take your picture and then you get down?
Tornado A: Ok!
He moved out further on the ledge and rocked. I snapped a few quick shots. I slid my phone in my pocket. I walked down the hill next to the outcrop. I took his hand.
Me: Time to come down.
I planned just to walk him back.
Tornado A: Ok, Mama.
He jumped into my arms. I caught him.
Me: You know. Explorers take calculated risks. They measure the risk to survival and reward and do only the risks where they have minimal consequences like less chances of getting hurt.
Tornado A: I’m an explorer! I take risks!
Me: Well, from now on, Explorer, you’ll take calculated risks.
Tornado A: I take risks!
I’m going to have to watch over you more.